Auto merge of #108355 - dpaoliello:dlltoolm, r=michaelwoerister

Fix cross-compiling with dlltool for raw-dylib

Fix for #103939

Issue Details:
When attempting to cross-compile using the `raw-dylib` feature and the GNU toolchain, rustc would attempt to find a cross-compiling version of dlltool (e.g., `i686-w64-mingw32-dlltool`). The has two issues 1) on Windows dlltool is always `dlltool` (no cross-compiling named versions exist) and 2) it only supported compiling to i686 and x86_64 resulting in ARM 32 and 64 compiling as x86_64.

Fix Details:
* On Windows always use the normal `dlltool` binary.
* Add the ARM64 cross-compiling dlltool name (support for this is coming: https://sourceware.org/bugzilla/show_bug.cgi?id=29964)
* Provide the `-m` argument to dlltool to indicate the target machine type.

(This is the first of two PRs to fix the remaining issues for the `raw-dylib` feature (#58713) that is blocking stabilization (#104218))

Author: bors